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Tuesday
Nov262013

Stop Children from Nagging with Three Simple Words

When it comes to persistence, few things compare to a child nagging and negotiating to try and get what he wants. And few people know that better than a parent who has given that child an answer they don’t want to hear.

From the famed “Are we there yet?” to this morning’s “Can I have ice cream for breakfast?” to this afternoon’s “Can I have ice cream for dinner?” kids are notorious for their one-track minds, and they will ask…and ask…and ask…just in case you’ve changed your mind in the last minute.

Child nagging is a learned behavior that children of any age can pick up. They might continue to use it because once, in a moment of weakness, you caved and let them stay up an extra half hour after they asked for the eighth time.

But like any learned behavior, child nagging can be unlearned. The solution comes from Lynn Lott, co-author of the Positive Discipline series of books, and it works on kids as young as two or three, all the way through their teens.

It only takes three simple words: “Asked and Answered.”

The concept is simple. When seven-year-old Daniel begs to dig a giant hole in the front yard and gets “no” for an answer, chances are he’ll be back in five minutes asking again – this time with a “pleeeeeeaase” just so you know he really, really wants to dig the hole.

Instead of repeating yourself or jumping in to a lecture, avoid child nagging by getting eye to eye and follow the process below:

Step One: Ask, “Have you ever heard of ‘Asked and Answered’?” (He’ll probably say no.)

Step Two: Ask, “Did you ask me a question about digging a hole?” (He’ll say yes.)

Step Three: Ask, “Did I answer it?” (He’ll probably say, “Yes, but, I really ….”)

Step Four: Ask, “Do I look like the kind of mom/dad/teacher who will change her/his mind if you ask me the same thing over and over?” (Chances are Daniel will walk away, maybe with a frustrated grunt, and engage in something else.)

Step Five: If Daniel asks again, simply say, “Asked and Answered.” (No other words are necessary!) Once this technique has been established, these are the only words you should need to say to address nagging questions.

Consistency is key! Once you decide to use “Asked and Answered” with your nagging child, be sure to stick to it. If 14-year-old Emma is particularly determined to keep asking to get her eyebrow pierced, stay strong. Answering her question again – or worse yet, changing your answer – will reinforce to her that her nagging works. Although it’ll take some patience, your child will eventually connect the dots and you’ll see results!

Make “Asked and Answered” a joint effort with your spouse, and consider including any family or friends who may have to deal with child nagging and negotiating from your child. When Daniel and Emma realize that they won’t get a “yes,” even after they’ve asked twelve times, they’ll get the hint and retire this tactic.

Speech and Language Pathologist, Stacy Pulley reports this technique works well for children with communication challenges, particularly those with Autism. She suggests bringing a notebook or a chalk/dry erase board into the mix and writing down a question once they’ve asked it more than once, keeping in mind their reading level. Or, draw a picture. Then, when your child asks again, point to the board or notebook to remind them that they’ve asked, and you’ve answered. Be sure to use as few words as possible and stay consistent in your language to help them understand the connection as they learn to listen to and respect your answers.

Adding this tool to your parenting toolbox is a positive step toward ending the child nagging and negotiating that can wear on even the most resolute of parents. Then, be sure to follow through and stay consistent – and before you know it, 20 questions will be a fun game once again, and no longer a negotiation tactic!

Tuesday
Nov262013

McDonalds Secret Menu Offers Odd Surprises

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We know, we know. Some of the McDonalds secret menu item names are vague, silly, or outright ridiculous. Well, for those of you who want to see pictures of the tasty McDonalds secret menu items, we got you covered too. Try not to drool.

Monday
Nov252013

WW II Veteran, MLB Player Lou Brissie Dies

A local World War II vet and baseball star passed away Monday night. Leland Victor “Lou” Brissie passed away Monday night, according to the principal of Ware Shoals High School. Lou Brissie was honored by Ware Shoals High School on Veterans Day along with the rest of the community.

Ware Shoals baseball stadium was renamed after the 89-year-old Brisse, who is a Ware Shoals native.

“A veteran is someone who recognized that we all owe duty to our country -- the nation that gave us the lives that we live; and to each other and our fellow Americans,” Tom Martin, an attorney and Ware Shoals native, told the crowd.

Students learned how Brissie, whose baseball stardom began in the very stadium where they sat, graduated in 1941 and received an offer to play in Major League Baseball.  However, he postponed a professional career by choosing to further his education.  He attended Presbyterian College and decided to enlist in the military.  While serving as a paratrooper corporal in Italy, he was seriously wounded by heavy artillery fire. 

“The doctors wanted to amputate Lou’s leg, but he persuaded them to send him to an evacuation hospital,” Mark Lowe, board chair of Ware Shoals School District 51, said from the podium.  “Mr. Brissie personified heroism in laying his life down for us.  It’s nice to see a true hero.”

Brissie was too ill to attend the ceremony.  He watched it from a veterans’ hospital in Augusta, which livestreamed the presentation via the Internet.

“Never in my life has anything touched me as much as this," Brissie said.  “It means so much to me for them to do this.”

Brissie earned a Bronze Star and two Purple Hearts for his service and set his sights on the pitching mound upon returning home.  Speakers described Brissie’s determination to recover, his appreciation for penicillin following numerous operations and his 1947 debut in Major League Baseball.  His career with the major leagues lasted until 1953 and included an American League All-Star game.

Brissie went on to become the national director of American League baseball and a scout for the Los Angeles Dodgers and Milwaukee Braves. 

While Brissie was able to pursue his baseball dreams after the war, he never forgot about the fate of others in the military.

“He spent countless hours visiting veterans in the hospital, encouraging recovering soldiers to continue in the fight and never give up,” Lowe said. 

Brissie’s wife, Diana, attended the ceremony and accepted a plaque on behalf of her husband.  She told WYFF that she hopes the students will be inspired by her husband’s life.

“Whether it’s in sports, medicine or whatever  they choose to go into, they can overcome obstacles to whatever they put their mind to,” she said.

The city of Ware Shoals and School District 51 are trying to raise money for a new manual scoreboard at Lou Brissie Field.

Read more: http://www.wyff4.com/news/local-news/abbeville-greenwood-news/world-war-ii-vet-baseball-star-has-passed-away/-/9654572/23157486/-/u524uy/-/index.html#ixzz2lkQQSrhR

Monday
Nov252013

U.S. Pastor Held in Iran "Betrayed by White House"

The family of Pastor Saeed Abedini said in a recent interview that they are "devastated" that the Obama administration failed to secure Abedini's release during recent negotiation talks with Iran, in which the Middle Eastern country agreed to limit its nuclear program in exchange for lighter economic sanctions. Abedini is an American pastor who has been imprisoned in Iran over the past year for his Christian faith.

"As a wife and a mom, it's devastating," Naghmeh Abedini, the pastor's wife, told Fox News Radio. Naghmeh and her family saw these recent peace talks between Iran and the U.S. as a possible opportunity for Abedini to be released from his eight-year prison sentence. The pastor was sentenced in January 2013 under the charges of "planting house churches that are intended to undermine national security."

Naghmeh added to Fox News Radio that she now believes the U.S. has no leveraging power since making the nuclear program deal. "Iran has no incentive for them to release him. I don't think we have any more leverage. We now have to consider other avenues and having other countries speak out because our country when we could have used our leverage chose to stay silent."

"It's unbearable," she said, "to think of another Christmas without him and see my kids not have him home for Christmas."

Over the weekend, the U.S. reached an interim agreement with Iran during peace talks in Geneva that freezes the Middle Eastern country's nuclear program for six months while a more long-term agreement can be reached. In exchange, the U.S. will relieve the country of $7 billion from economic sanctions during the six-month period.

The American Center for Law and Justice said that the White House's failure to secure Abedini's release as a part of the weekend negotiations was "a betrayal" against the American pastor. "President Obama and Secretary of State Kerry turned their backs on a U.S. citizen by refusing to secure his freedom before reaching an agreement with Iran," Jay Sekulow, chief counsel of the ACLJ, said in a statement. "It is outrageous and a betrayal of American Pastor Saeed Abedini who has spent more than a year in an Iranian prison simply because of his Christian faith."

Monday
Nov252013

Anderson Unemployment Lowest Since June 2008

Anderson County’s unemployment rate decreased to 6.5% in October, according to a report released Friday by the S.C. Department of Employment and Workforce.  This rate is the lowest recorded for Anderson County since June 2008, when the rate was measured at 6.6%.  During the recession the unemployment rate hit a high of 13.6% in February 2010.

The release of the monthly Local Area Unemployment Statistics Report (LAUS) also stated that 78,479 Anderson residents were employed as of October.  This is the highest employment number measured since December 2008, when employment was measured at 78,502.  Employment had dipped to a low of 73,220 in January of 2010.

5,499 Andersonians were unemployed in October, according to the report.  The number of unemployed residents is at its lowest level since May 2008, when 4,905 residents were reported as being unemployed.  The number of unemployed persons peaked at 11,578 in February 2010.

“We have come a long way since the darkest days of the Great Recession, but much work remains to be done”, said Anderson County Council Chairman Francis M. Crowder, Sr.  “For now I am thankful that so many of our residents have found rewarding employment opportunities since those worst days when hope seemed to be lost for so many families.  These numbers seem to indicate that our economic development strategies are yielding the results we hoped for, and I am committed to doing all I can to continue to build upon the success we’ve seen so far.”

SCDEW on Friday also made available the Current Employment Statistics (CES) report for October.  The CES provides detailed industry data on employment for workers on nonfarm payrolls.  Whereas the LAUS reports employment by residence of worker, the CES reports employment by locations of individual business establishments.

According to the CES, businesses located in Anderson County employed a total of 62,300 persons as of October.  This number is an increase of 4,000 (6%) since 2009.  The report shows that manufacturing companies in Anderson County employ 12,200 people, an increase of 1,000 jobs (8%) over what was observed in 2009. Employment by production workers in all Goods-Producing industries (which includes manufacturing, mining, and construction) has increased by 1,600 since 2009 and now stands at 15,500.  Private sector industry establishments in Anderson County employ a total of 50,500 people—an increase of 3,900 (8%) since 2009.

Monday
Nov252013

P.A.W.S. Awarded $10,000 in Grant Funding

Anderson County PAWS is pleased to announce that is has received more than $10,000 in grant funding from the ASPCA through its participation in two programs.  PAWS received $5,600 from its participation in the ASPCA’s Carroll Petrie Foundation Dog Rescue Project and an additional $5,000 for its participation in the 2013 ASPCA Rachael Ray $100K Challenge.

PAWS was one of 51 shelters across the nation selected to participate in the Carroll Petrie Foundation Dog Rescue Project.   Funded by a $1 million donation from the Carroll Petrie Foundation, the project offered financial subsidies to participating shelters based on increases in the number of dogs and puppies saved by transfer to rescue groups and other alternative live placement methods.  From January through May of 2013, PAWS transferred 112 more dogs and puppies than over the same period in 2012, and the shelters participating across the nation combined to save a total of 18,781 dogs during the project period.

PAWS received $50 from ASPCA for each of the additional 112 dogs and puppies saved through alternative placements during the project period for a total grant of $5,600.  

PAWS was also one of 49 contestants in the 2013 ASPCA Rachael Ray $100K Challenge. Over a three month period from June through August, contestants worked to increase the number of lives saved over the same three month period in 2012 through adoptions, transfers to adopt and returns to owner.  PAWS was a top-ten contender through the first two months of the Challenge, but numbers declined in August as PAWS shifted resources to the rescue and care of 153 dogs taken in from a suspected puppy mill in August.  The needs of the puppy mill dogs halted dog adoptions for several days in August, and the medical care required by these dogs precluded make-ready spay/neuter surgeries.  These factors slowed adoptions in August tremendously; nevertheless, PAWS saved a total of 878 dogs and cats during the three month contest—an increase of 141 over the same period in 2012.  The 141 lives-saved increase was good enough for PAWS to place 29th in the final standings for the Challenge.  For their efforts, PAWS received a $5,000 incentive from ASPCA for meeting certain targeted adoption goals. 

PAWS Director Jessica Cwynar said, “Obviously, we can’t thank ASPCA enough for their support.  We’d like to think that our participation in these programs indicates that ASPCA has confidence in our shelter and our community.  The incentives we received from both the Carroll Petrie Foundation Dog Rescue Project and the 2013 ASPCA Rachael Ray $100K Challenge will be put towards securing an improved mobile adoption trailer and other items we need to push our rescue numbers even higher!  This is an exciting time for all of us here.” 

Monday
Nov252013

Shoppers Stay Home Without Special Retail Bargains

This holiday season, Americans may not spend their green unless they see more red.

Despite signs that the economy is improving, big store chains like Wal-Mart and Kohl’s don’t expect Americans to have much holiday shopping cheer unless they see bold, red signs that offer huge discounts. As a result, shoppers are seeing big sales events earlier and more often than in previous holiday seasons.

Retailers are trying to lure shoppers like Marissa Anwar, who has been doing more bargain hunting compared with last year.

The operations consultant, who lives in Toronto and New York City, said the economy “hasn’t been great” and she’s lost clients. As a result, she cut her shopping budget to $2,800 from last year’s $4,000.

“I was a former ‘spend-aholic,’’’said Anwar, 29. “Now, I want to make sure I have the money before I spend it.”

It’s a problem that retailers know all too well. Since the recession began in late 2007, stores have had to offer financially-strapped Americans ever bigger price cuts just to get them into stores. But those discounts eat away at profits.

So far, Wal-Mart, Target and Kohl’s are among more than two dozen major chains that lowered their profit outlooks for either the quarter or the year. A big reason is the expectation that they’ll have to offer huge discounts in order to get shoppers to spend.

Sunday
Nov242013

Israel Calls Pact with Iran "Historic  Mistake"

Israel swiftly condemned the deal struck in Geneva, with the prime minister, Binyamin Netanyahu, calling it a "historic mistake" and warning that his country would not allow Iran to develop nuclear weapons.

Speaking to ministers at the weekly cabinet meeting on Sunday, Netanyahu said: "Today the world has become a much more dangerous place because the most dangerous regime in the world has taken a significant step toward attaining the most dangerous weapon in the world … Israel is not bound by this agreement.

"The Iranian regime is committed to the destruction of Israel and Israel has the right and the obligation to defend itself, by itself, against any threat. As prime minister of Israel, I would like to make it clear: Israel will not allow Iran to develop a military nuclear capability."

Netanyahu, who has staked his premiership on the need to defend Israel against the Iranian threat by military action if necessary, faces further isolation from key allies in the west who brokered and endorsed the diplomatic accord with Tehran. The issue has severely strained relations between Israel and the US over recent weeks.

But the prospect of diplomatic alienation did not stop a string of minsters taking to the airwaves to denounce the deal. "If in another five or six years a nuclear suitcase explodes in New York or Madrid, it will be because of the agreement that was signed this morning," the economy minister, Naftali Bennett, said. "We woke up this morning to a reality in which a bad, a very bad agreement was signed in Geneva."

The foreign minister, Avigdor Lieberman, said Israel needed to reassess its position in the light of the deal. He said: "A situation assessment is needed. Apparently, we are going to have to make decisions, when all the options are on the table."

He added: "Obviously when you look at the smiles of the Iranians over there in Geneva, you realise that this is the Iranians' greatest victory, maybe since the Khomeini revolution, and it doesn't really change the situation within Iran."

But some analysts suggested that Israel's options were limited by the west's consensus on the need for a diplomatic solution to the Iranian nuclear threat.

"International legitimacy for a unilateral Israeli attack is reduced significantly. The international community endorses this deal, and so Israel will find it really hard to use military power," said Yoel Guzansky, former head of the Iran desk in the prime minister's office and now a research fellow at the Institute for National Security Studies in Tel Aviv. The deal, he said, was "not perfect, not the deal we prayed for, but it's not as bad as some as saying this morning".

The justice minister, Tzipi Livni, suggested Israel needed to repair its relations with the US and seek tactical alliances elsewhere on Iran.

Sunday
Nov242013

Thanksukkah: When Holidays Collide

The expectations for our family’s holiday meals are usually as rigid as the compartments of a plastic prison plate. Any deviation, any scrambling of tradition (“Who put raisins in the cranberry sauce?” “You call this a latke? It looks more like matzo brei!”), is treated as heresy. The offending cook can expect hours of protest, and maybe a loss of skillet privileges.

This year, that all ends. As the two Google Calendars that rule our lives, Jewish and secular, collide in spectacular fashion, we are letting the gravy of one holiday freely flow into the olive oil of another. It’s been 125 years since Thanksgiving and the first day of Hanukkah coincided, and it won’t happen again for a very long time, so we’re declaring this a Jubilee Year. Why shouldn’t our menu be as commingled as our own DNA?

As in most American Jewish families, our lives are a mash-up of heritages and food traditions. David is Eastern European and German, with a smoky layer of Kansas City barbecue culture. Susan is southern Italian and Sicilian. She learned about keeping kosher through conversion classes. Even before the calendar collision, we were mixing it up in ricotta blintzes with pignoli, Shavuot lasagna and other holiday meals.

Take Thanksgiving. In Susan’s family, that holiday belonged to her grandmother Palma Gambino, who started the celebration each year with chicken soup. We’ve kept the tradition going, except we swap out her garnish of grated Parmesan for David’s mother’s matzo balls (no milk with meat). We smoke a turkey in the backyard in homage to Kansas City’s barbecue chimneys, and because smelling hickory smoke for hours makes everyone ravenous for the biggest meal of the year. Dessert can be the apple charlotte of David’s grandmother Clementine Blumenthal or her zwetschgenkuchen (plum torte).

But on Nov. 28, there will be three candles ready in the menorah by the time the turkey leaves the wood fire. (Hanukkah starts on Wednesday at sundown, so depending on how long this meal lasts, we’ll probably be lighting candles for the second night around the time the pie comes out.)

The challenge this year is to serve a meal that honors our traditions, makes room for fresh influences from our grown sons (both home cooks) and blends the best of both holiday menus into one epic feast. For help, we turned to the Dining section’s own Melissa Clark, who picked out the most promising notes in our family cookbooks and developed recipe combinations that pulled the meal together.

She suggested we add fresh horseradish to the matzo balls, a perfect nod to David’s grandfather, who liked to carve bits tableside from a huge, gnarly root. So festive. It was also Melissa’s idea to serve our Hanukkah brisket next to the turkey, as if she knew that David’s grandmother always served two kinds of meat at every holiday, a subconscious demonstration of abundance by a Holocaust survivor who understood privation.

Our kitchen filled up with Aleppo pepper and sticky jars of pomegranate molasses when our son Daniel began to recreate the Sabbath meals he ate at the homes of his Syrian Jewish friends from the Midwood section of Brooklyn, near our home in Ditmas Park. Why not add those flavors, and cranberries, to the brisket, Melissa suggested.

We’d been thinking that the perfect Plymouth Rock-Maccabee combo would be Hanukkah sufganiyot — the fried jelly doughnuts that originated in Poland and are now ubiquitous in Israel — filled with Portuguese pumpkin preserves. (The preserves became breakfast staples after Daniel, who now lives in Seattle, agreed to come along and visit his brother, Jonathan, in Berlin last December if we would stop off in sunny southern Portugal on the way home.)

But Melissa had a better idea. Keep the preserves, but spread them on top of the inevitable fried centerpiece of our Hanukkah meals and memories: latkes, which have been holiday essentials since David’s mother lost a few layers of knuckle while grating potatoes each year. Back in 1992, in fact, the food writer Molly O’Neill playfully named David “the Latke King” in her “New York Cookbook,” and included the recipe he had modified from his mother’s and grandmother’s.

We now use a food processor to make big batches, sometimes just for the family, sometimes for 60 friends or more. We cover our range with a collection of aromatic cast-iron skillets handed down from the matriarchs on both sides, and turn the kitchen exhaust fan on high. Then, until the potatoes, onions and matzo meal run out, we fry them in olive oil. It may be theliquid symbol of Hanukkah, but in our house it’s imported from Italy.

With latkes on the Thanksgiving table this year, there won’t be any need for stuffing. And the absence of the usual applesauce is a reminder that traditions, comforting as they are, often act as blinders to culinary possibilities.

After all, there’s nothing sacred, or even particularly Jewish, about the latke. It’s an ancient European comfort food woven fairly recently into the braid of Hanukkah by the Ashkenazic Jews, solely because it was fried in fat (and usually goose fat). Our family was reminded of this last year in Mainz, Germany, when Jonathan led us to some stunningly good potato pancakes (known in the Rhineland as reibekuchen) served hot out of the fryer at a freezing outdoor Christmas market not far from the rural villages of David’s grandparents.

Latkes are no more authentic to the origin story of Hanukkah than pumpkin pie is to the first Thanksgiving, so why not play with both holiday traditions? The original Hanukkah pancake, as Gil Marks notes in the “Encyclopedia of Jewish Food,” was made in medieval Italy out of curd cheese (probably ricotta), an allusion to the apocryphal Jewish heroine Judith, who subdued a foe using wine and cheese.

That fits right into our family’s regular shopping list, but it’s hardly the only way different Jewish cultures have taken from their surroundings. A dusty 1958 volume from David’s mother’s collection, “The Jewish Cook Book,” by Mildred Grosberg Bellin, claims that the traditional Hanukkah meal should be buckwheat latkes and roast goose. That sounds a little grim, but somewhere, a kid must have loved it.

We won’t be the only family crowding into the kitchen this year, mixing holiday flavors and inventing new customs on our feet. Home cooks have been doing that for centuries, and this year’s supercollider is an invitation to make something new that lasts. But not cranberry sauce with raisins.

Sunday
Nov242013

S.C. Use of Common Core Standards Debate Begins

Nearly everyone wants to improve the nation’s public schools, but it’s hard to find broad agreement about how best to do it.

The most current example of this may be the debate over Common Core State Standards. The intention was to create clear, high expectations for the knowledge students must learn to ensure they are college or career ready.

But a growing number are questioning whether the new standards will achieve that goal.

It’s a debate unfolding across the country, and a new chapter could be written in South Carolina when lawmakers return to Columbia in January. Here is a primer:

What are the Common Core State Standards?

The Common Core State Standards are a new set of standards that define what students must learn in grades K-12 in English language arts and math.

For example, one of the first-grade English language arts standards calls for students to be able to identify words and phrases in stories or poems that suggest feelings or appeal to the senses.

Schools still have the ability to decide the method and curriculum they would use to teach that standard.

Why are they controversial?

The standards have been criticized for both what they represent as well as what they contain.

From a philosophical standpoint, many Republicans are concerned that the standards will infringe on states’ rights. U.S. Sen. Tim Scott, R-S.C., has said, “We need to move past the notion that the federal government knows best when it comes to the unique needs of our students and communities.”

Others are opposed to the content of the standards for a range of reasons. Some have argued that the new standards aren’t rigorous or developmentally appropriate, and that they try to instill federally determined attitudes and mindsets about political and religious beliefs.

Some have said that the new standards put too much emphasis on informational text and neglect classic literature. Still others have said they eliminate the study of cursive writing, thus failing to give students the skills needed to read, among other things, historical documents such as the U.S. Constitution.

Saturday
Nov232013

GOP Wants to Finish Takeover of S.C.

South Carolina Republican Party Chairman Matt Moore shares some striking political data when he visits local party meetings. In a state where the GOP holds most statewide offices and congressional and state legislative seats, Democrats still have a grip on the counties. Democrats also outnumber Republicans as sheriffs, coroners and auditors.

Moore wants to change that in 2014. His goal in next year's elections is to flip as many of the 46 counties and local offices he can to Republican control, completing a transformation that started nearly 50 years ago when Strom Thurmond startled the state by switching from Democrat to Republican.

Other Southern states like Tennessee are also trying to complete Republican transformations.

Friday
Nov222013

Americans Remember Legacy of Slain President

These days, it is only the world's grandparents who can tell you where they were when they heard John F Kennedy was dead. For decades that was a staple of the global collective memory, a question that could be asked in Berlin or London as readily as New York or Los Angeles. Today that memory becomes exactly 50 years old.

Despite its age, it's going strong. While some presidents, including those who occupied the White House for a full eight years, have struggled to be remembered at all 50 years after their deaths, Kennedy continues to loom large. His 1,036 days as president have been the subject of an unending stream of words – filling 40,000 different books by one estimate – as well as countless documentaries, TV dramas and Hollywood movies. Like much else of this vast output, the latest film, Parkland, focuses on the very last of those thousand-odd days: 22 November 1963.

Interest in JFK peaks for an anniversary, especially a big one. But the truth is, it hardly ever wanes. The Kennedy aura remains a factor in US politics, even when there is no Kennedy on the ballot paper. The standout moment of the 1988 campaign? When Lloyd Bentsen squashed a callow Dan Quayle by telling him: "Senator, you're no Jack Kennedy." One of the lasting images of the 1992 race? Archive footage of JFK shaking the hand of a 16-year-old Bill Clinton at the White House, cherished as if Camelot had witnessed King Arthur anointing a new prince. There was similar symbolism – the passing of the torch – when in early 2008 Barack Obama won the endorsement of Kennedy's brother, Teddy, and daughter, Caroline: once he had their blessing, Obama looked unbeatable.

What explains this enduring grip on both the public and political imagination? The manner of Kennedy's death is central to any answer. The story of the 1963 assassination is so compelling, so full of human drama and pathos and, to this day, mystery – even those who accept that Lee Harvey Oswald was the sole killer cannot agree on his true motive – that it refuses to rest.

Visitors at Kennedy's grave at the Arlington National Cemetery in Virginia. Photograph: UPI/Landov/Barcroft Media

But the greater significance of that day in Dallas – beyond the arguments about the grassy knoll and the Zapruder film – is the effect the killing had on how the Kennedy presidency would be viewed thereafter. It would, forever, be a story of what might have been, of potential snuffed out before its time. As David Ormsby-Gore, then Britain's ambassador to Washington, wrote to Jackie Kennedy: "He had great things to do and he would have done them."

The result is that historians do something unusual when confronted with the 35th American president: they debate his actual record less than his potential record. Take the Vietnam war, the shadow that would hang over the 1960s, thwarting its attempts to be the decade of peace and love. US involvement in that war escalated on JFK's watch; by November 1963, the number of US troops in the country had risen to 16,000. It was Kennedy, say his critics, who set the course his successor, Lyndon Johnson, would follow – by increasing the US military presence to 480,000 during the next four years. After all, Johnson was surrounded by Kennedy's advisers and always insisted he was merely continuing Kennedy policy. By contrast, JFK's defenders insist he was, in fact, a sceptic about the use of ground troops in Vietnam, distrusted gung-ho voices in the military, and would have found a way to wrench America out of that quagmire.

On civil rights, that other defining struggle of the 1960s, the argument is equally divided. Admirers cite Kennedy's televised address to the nation, referring to the battle over racial segregation as a "moral crisis", and his readiness to use the National Guard to force the whites-only universities of the south to open up to black students. Those less enamoured say he was late to the issue and that he was unlikely to have been willing or able to ram through the landmark civil rights legislation eventually passed by Johnson. "Kennedy had no great understanding of the impatience of African Americans or the intransigence of white southerners, while Johnson – from Texas – understood both," says Tony Badger, professor of American history at Cambridge. JFK, says Badger, was more "scared of the south" than LBJ, adding the reminder that Jackie Kennedy referred to Martin Luther King as that "terrible" man. There's a similar debate over Johnson's "war on poverty", with Kennedy advocates insisting that everything LBJ did JFK would have done too, if he only had the chance.

John F Kennedy and the Texas governor John Connally with their wives in the presidential motorcade moments before the assassination. Photograph: Reuters

More clear-cut – and usually held up as the unambiguously golden part of his legacy – is Kennedy's handling of the Cuban missile crisis of 1962. As those over 60 cannot forget, the world held its breath for those few days, genuinely believing that the stand-off between Washington and Moscow over the Soviet deployment of nuclear weapons in Cuba could end in Armageddon. Kennedy was cool-headed, faced down Washington's hawks and showed great creativity, and even empathy, in his dealings with Nikita Krushchev. In pulling back from the abyss, JFK secured his place in history (and laid the ground for the nuclear test ban treaty signed weeks before his death). Knowing his standing would never be higher, he turned to Jackie when the crisis was finally resolved and said: "Well, if anyone's ever going to shoot me, this would be the day they should do it."

And yet judging Kennedy by this standard – assessing his policy failures and successes – is slightly to miss the point. His appeal, and the enduring power of his memory, lies elsewhere.

For one thing, he was that rare politician able to inspire. The young especially responded to his call: "Ask not what your country can do for you … ," while his declaration in a city divided by the cold war that "Ich bin ein Berliner" resonated throughout eastern Europe. Less than three years in office, Kennedy nevertheless conjured up oratory and imagery that retain their hold half a century later.

There's no use pretending that sex and glamour were not at the heart of this. JFK looked young, vigorous and handsome with a beautiful wife to match. Stark was the contrast with both his predecessors in the Oval Office and his counterparts abroad: how different Kennedy looked from Macmillan, Adenauer and De Gaulle. He appeared like a new leader for a new era.

Family members including his brother Robert Kennedy, wife Jackie Kennedy and their children leave for his funeral service. Photograph: Reuters

That image has endured far beyond the archive footage. Kennedy established a template for political leadership that is still in place, in America and around the world. Kennedyesque is still the style, the demeanour, candidates for high office aspire to: slim, energetic, accompanied by a supremely elegant spouse. Whether it's Obama in Ray-Bans or Cameron on the beach with Samantha, JFK remains the model.

Of course, much of it was fake. Unknown to the voting public, their fit young president was, in fact, crippled with back pain from Addison's disease, taking industrial quantities of drugs to get through the day. Equally concealed were his serial infidelities, his affairs with women ranging from 19-year-old interns to Marilyn Monroe – a record of womanising inside the White House that makes Bill Clinton look like a boy scout.

Yet none of this seems to diminish the Kennedy legend; it only enhances it. For JFK, the first president of the TV age who understood and exploited the medium, remains, even in death, a celebrity. He is the hero of a story that has everything: sex, lies and 8mm film; gossip, intrigue and lust – all set against a background of peace and war.

What's more, all that is combined with something that is, perhaps, as powerful as sex: hope. Despite everything, the Kennedy brand still stands for idealism – for the ambition of the moon landing and the call to public service enshrined in one of his most popular programmes, the Peace Corps.

Celebrity and hope: it's a powerful, quintessentially American combination. Fifty years ago the man who embodied it was gunned down. But the myth lives on. Not even a magic bullet can destroy that.

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Black Friday Not Best Time to Shop

Black Friday will again rule as the premier shopping day of the year, but the best time to stock up on goodies could be almost a week later.

The shopping analytics company ShopperTrak identified 10 days between Thanksgiving and Christmas that will provide the chance to seize good deals while avoiding the frenzy of store traffic.

The days are ranked with the least amount of expected retail traffic at the top: Dec. 4, Dec. 3, Dec. 2, Dec. 11, Dec. 9, Dec. 10, Dec. 6, Dec. 13, Dec. 12, Dec. 16.

All of those are weekdays, which played highly into ShopperTrak's rankings.

Consumers can take advantage of more frequent lulls in store traffic that happen during the week and have a more comfortable experience picking what things they want to buy, according to ShopperTrak founder and chief executive officer Bill Martin.

Despite that, Black Friday and weekend days will likely hold their place as the preferred days for shoppers to spend money.

There are only four weekends, instead of the usual five, and 25 total days between the two major holidays. That has not happened since 2002 and won't happen again until 2019.

"It's favorable on the calendar is that Christmas falls on a Wednesday, which should make 'Super Saturday' Dec. 21 a strong day," Martin said in a teleconference with reporters. "It struggled a couple of times the last couple of years because of its proximity to Christmas Day. It could challenge for the top day of the year."